For childrens health, please control your emotions!

People have seven passions and six passions, and it is inevitable that there will be emotional outbursts; Every parent who loves nature and vitality is an independent individual. They will face all kinds of complicated interpersonal relationships, be happy, sad and angry. Even in family life, as parents, there are inevitably contradictions and frictions between them, from trivial things to big things. However, no matter how angry you are, don't forget that there is one or several small members in the family; The parents' quarrels are gradually affecting their psychology, casting a shadow on the children's young psychology. Many families think that quarrels are between adults, and how will they affect children? Little did we know that, imperceptibly, children were hurt more. A rough summary of the following points is worth thinking about by parents.

The world of adults is not easy. It is inevitable that there will be some unpleasant things in work and life, especially when the pressure and emotion reach a certain commanding height, it is particularly easy to lose your temper. If children are naughty again, parents' temper can be said to be explosive. In today's families, parents often break out of bad emotions unnaturally, and children become the vent of parents at this time. Before writing this article, I have seen two such news. The main character of the news is a father from Xi'an. At that time, the father went to the Internet cafe to surf the Internet, but his wife refused. The father was very angry about this. In order to burst out his emotions, he threw the child who was one year old and nine months old to the ground, causing the baby's skull fracture and eye damage.

Also in Dalian, when a young mother was feeding her baby, the mother kicked the baby hard because the baby didn't want to eat and didn't listen to the advice. As a result, the baby died of ineffective rescue. I wonder what you think about this? The emotional management of parents is to be friendly and peaceful with their children. Only when parents communicate with their children in an equal manner and give them enough sense of respect can they win mutual trust. When parents vent their emotions to their children, the consequences will not only affect them, but also cause double harm to their children's body, mind and psychology behind the ineffective management of emotions.

So why is it easy for parents to take it out on their children when they are in a bad mood? In fact, the reason why parents take their children as a tool to vent is that they fail to effectively express their families' feelings for their children. Some mothers will exclaim that they know it is bad to lose their temper with their children, but they can't help scolding them. This is the result of parents' wrong expression. Emotion management is a part of self-control. When you are under pressure from life and work, you will slowly lose the ability to control yourself, so that your emotional venting is unreasonable, which affects your children's growth.

When emotional management is not appropriate, parents will easily lose their temper to their children, and these scoldings will make the baby lack enough sense of security. Slowly, they will feel that they are unworthy of being loved. They are extremely humble and cannot face themselves squarely. A good parent-child relationship is important because parents and children respect each other. As long as parents can talk with their children with an equal attitude, the baby can feel the love brought by their parents. I know parents' feelings very well. When I am under pressure, I clearly don't want to vent my bad feelings on children, but sometimes I can't control them. How can we avoid this situation?

1、 Parents must do a good job in emotion management, and never let their negative emotions affect the healthy growth of children.

If we want to avoid venting bad emotions on children, we should learn to control our emotions. Every parent is an adult, so they must have the ability to control their emotions. For example, we should never bring our work emotions home. Every time we enter the house, we should think about the good times with our wives and children, so that the baby can see that he is a positive and sunny parent.

2、 We should take the initiative to find the root cause of the problem. In fact, finding the cause of a problem is always the basis and means to solve the problem. We should take the initiative to understand the truth of the matter. If we are really angry, we can make adjustments first.

Before speaking, take a deep breath, and then let the baby tell the whole story clearly, and then analyze it one by one, rather than directly scolding. We should know that the turning point of things is often where we did not think and consider.

3、 We should respect the independent personality of children.

Many parents believe that their children are still young, so what respect do they need? Mother Cai here tells you that this idea is wrong. Although children are small, they also need to be respected by others. To respect the independent personality of children, we should look at problems from the perspective of children and understand their situation and mood. Of course, we should also point out the children's mistakes and help them to correct them.

4、 In addition to respecting the independent personality of children, we should also remember to reflect on ourselves.

I have been taught in textbooks. I examine myself three times a day. This sentence tells us that introspection is very important for everyone! Therefore, when parents encounter something, the first one should remember to reflect on themselves. Because we are the parents who bear the responsibility of children's family education, it is crucial to do irregular self-examination to maintain family harmony. We should know that self examination is a good way to help us regulate and keep our emotions.

When encountering pressure, we should find the right way to vent, rather than scolding the children. In addition to reviewing ourselves irregularly, we should also establish a harmonious and happy family atmosphere. No matter the relationship between husband and wife, friends, or family members, it needs to be treated reasonably and sincerely. We should refuse to solve problems by quarreling, knowing that quarreling is not a good way to solve problems.

At the same time, arguments between parents will gradually make children lose their sense of security. In this family relationship, the thing that can make children afraid is that their parents quarrel. If both parties can't help quarreling, please don't quarrel in front of the children. We should control our temper, try to keep our emotions under control, and get along with our families in a friendly way. I think that creating a harmonious family atmosphere is the homework that every parent should do.

Generally speaking, as a parent, you should never take a child as an object to vent your emotions. Children bring pain and love. Our responsibility is to guide and educate children, and let them grow up. Is it not good for them to grow up healthily and happily? Why should children be used as objects to vent their emotions? In addition, we should not think that only beating and swearing is violence, and verbal violence often does more harm to children. Therefore, effective emotional management by parents is a very important behavior, and it can also make a family beautiful and harmonious.