How to do family education in Dalian

Dalian family education should be based on the policy support of local family school community collaboration, the regional characteristics of Bincheng, the pace of life of industrial families, and the core needs of "emphasizing psychology, cultivating habits, strong companionship, and integrating with the local community" in family education. The implementation of Dalian family education should follow the principle of "policy borrowing+stage focus+local adaptation+family adaptation", and provide practical and adaptable methods from five dimensions: daily practice, stage focus, local resource utilization, family school community collaboration, and avoidance guidelines, to adapt to different professions and stages of Dalian families:

1、 Basic practice: Do 3 core things well to adapt to the pace of life of Dalian families

Many families in Dalian, such as those in the industrial, port, and service industries, have the characteristics of fast work pace and relatively concentrated parent-child companionship time. They do not need to pursue "refined parenting", but rather focus on solid core basic tasks with high cost-effectiveness

Be a 'high-quality limited companion' and refuse to 'accompany but not accompany'

Capture communication in fragmented time: replace preaching with "open-ended questions" during morning and evening commutes and dinner (such as "What's fun at school today?" and "How do you want to solve this problem yourself?"), ask less about "how many points did you get in the exam", and pay more attention to your child's emotions;

Fixed 'Family Exclusive Time': Set aside 1-2 full time slots per week (half day/evening on weekends), put down your phone, and do local things together in Dalian - go to the beach to catch the sea, visit the forest zoo, hike along the coastal road, or make seafood home cooked dishes, boat models/mechanical models (in line with Dalian's industrial/marine characteristics). The core of companionship is' heartfelt participation 'rather than duration.

Establish 'simple and practical rules' to cultivate autonomy

Rules are few but precise: around the three aspects of daily routine, study, and life, there are no complicated clauses, and parents should lead by example (such as not using their phones to accompany their children's studies);

Rejecting "arranged substitution": Industrial families understand more about "practical growth", allowing their children to do what they can (cleaning tables and socks in elementary school, washing dishes and tidying up rooms in middle school), even if they can't do it well, they don't blame them. Reviewing issues is more important than arranging, which is in line with the "pragmatic" characteristics of parents in Dalian.

Adhere to the 'emotional bottom line' and be a good 'emotional container' for parent-child communication

Parents should first stabilize their emotions: avoid venting negative emotions on their children due to work pressure, pause for 30 seconds before communicating when angry;

Learn to "actively listen": Using the locally promoted "five step method" in Dalian (stop, look, point, respond, and share), children should not interrupt or rush to judge when they confide, first empathize (such as "Mom knows you didn't do well this time and feel wronged"), and then find a solution together, instead of directly criticizing "why are you so stupid".

2、 Focus on learning stages: Focus on the core tasks of each stage and avoid blind competition

Based on the implementation of the "double reduction" policy in Dalian and the requirements of home school collaboration, differentiated key points are set for primary, middle, and high schools, from "emphasizing habits" to "emphasizing autonomy" and then to "emphasizing planning", in line with the growth laws of children

3、 Local leverage: make good use of Dalian's policies, venues, and resources to make education easier

The Dalian Municipal Government, schools, and communities have provided a large number of free/public welfare family education resources, which can directly improve educational effectiveness without having to explore on their own. This is the "exclusive welfare" of Dalian families:

Make good use of official family education guidance resources

Listen to the public welfare class: pay attention to the official account of "Dalian Education" and "Dalian Women's Federation", see the public welfare micro class and parent school of the municipal expert lecturer group, and participate in the "Family Education Public Welfare Lecture" (livelihood project, more than 100 events throughout the year, covering all districts and counties);

Seek expert guidance: Each district and county has home education master studios and collaborative education demonstration schools (such as Zhongshan District and Ganjingzi District). Schools have dedicated home school co education teachers who can directly consult for educational difficulties, free and professional.

Make good use of Dalian's "natural+industrial" venues to provide immersive education

Natural education: Seaside (Xinghai, Fujiazhuang, Jinshitan), parks (Forest Zoo, Botanical Garden, Binhai National Geopark), and mountain trails (Tongniuling, Daheshan) are all free "extracurricular classes" that allow children to observe, explore, and practice, which can better cultivate their abilities than tutoring classes;

Industrial/popular science education: Dalian Shipyard, Maritime University Maritime Museum, Dalian Science and Technology Museum, Shell Museum, some venues have free open days, allowing children to experience the charm of local industry, cultivate scientific literacy and patriotism.

Make good use of community/campus public welfare activities

Campus: Actively participate in the school's parent open day, parent-child sports meet, family tradition sharing meeting, exchange experiences with class teachers and other parents, and integrate into the home school community;

Community: Each street in Dalian has good family traditions promotion, child friendly activities, and holiday public welfare care (such as the "Family Micro Study" in Ganjingzi District and the Parent Child Reading Club in Xigang District), which not only allows children to participate in collective activities, but also reduces the caregiving pressure on parents.

4、 Collaboration between Home, School, and Society: Same frequency as the school, without being a "hands off shopkeeper" or "interfering beyond boundaries"

Dalian is vigorously promoting the "family school community collaborative education", and the core of parents is to "cooperate with the school, actively communicate, and fulfill their respective responsibilities", forming an educational synergy:

Communicate with teachers: timely, sincere, and focus on key points

Communication frequency: In primary school, actively communicate with the homeroom teacher 2-3 times per semester, and in middle/high school, communicate in a timely manner according to the child's situation, without waiting for the child to have major problems before seeking help from the teacher;

Communication focus: Do not ask "How is my child?", ask specific questions (such as "How is the child's concentration in class?" "Are there any problems with getting along with classmates?"), listen to both strengths and weaknesses, and work with the teacher to develop solutions.

Not crossing boundaries: Respect the pace of education in schools

Do not question the reasonable regulations of the school, do not casually criticize the teaching methods of teachers, communicate privately with teachers if there are objections, and do not speak ill of the school/teachers in front of children;

Do not engage in "family school conflict". Schools are responsible for knowledge teaching and collective education, while families are responsible for habit cultivation and character building. Only by fulfilling their respective responsibilities can we achieve twice the result with half the effort.

Make good use of social resources: Don't bear difficulties alone

Psychological issues: Contact school psychological teachers, Dalian 12355 hotline, and municipal juvenile psychological counseling centers;

Special needs: If the child is a left behind or migrant child, they can apply for paired assistance and family micro study resources under the Dalian "White Dolphin" Care Action;

Learning guidance: Utilize the Dalian Education Cloud platform and public welfare tutoring courses in various districts and counties, without relying on expensive tutoring classes.